Wednesday, November 1, 2006



















The neighborhood Halloween party was a blast! Our Sunset Park Parents group has really grown. It’s great to see all the networking among the families. Abby rocked out to Elise’s husband Brian’s music. Scott and I stayed until Abby had a bit of a squabble with a friend over a basket of toy food. Abby tends to get possessive over toys when other kids try to take them without asking first. I don’t think I should have to force my child to give up a toy she had first when she doesn’t want to. Sharing is a hard concept for a two year old and so is learning to wait for your turn. It was time for us to leave the party anyways.

At the playground today I witnessed something disturbing. Sitting near the top of the bigger jungle gym in our park, was a young boy about four years old. Every time a kid would come near this boy, he would push the kid. These weren’t just light pushes. These were knock-you-down and continue pushing kind of pushes. Abby was playing with a three year old boy she has played with a few times before. Her friend tried to walk up to get to the platform where the mean boy was sitting which leads to the slide, but was promptly pushed down and pinned to the ground until I was able to reach the friend. I gave the mean boy a very stern look and told him that was extremely mean and he hurt the friend. I asked where his mother was, but the mean boy didn’t speak English. Abby happened to be walking near the platform where the mean boy was to walk across the bridge, and this mean boy gets up from his spot and walks over to push Abby. I picked Abby up and took her to the other side of the park. Where was this kid’s mother? A few minutes later I look over in the mean boy’s direction and at the same moment he pushes a very young toddler down the short ladder leading up to where he is. Thank God the father of the young toddler was there to catch his child. Then the mean boy turns around and pushes a girl down, takes her shoe and throws it. The mean boy picked the wrong girl to push. That girl’s mother picked her daughter up then turned around and grabbed the boy by his foot and swatted his ass all the while yelling at him. Finally the boy’s mother gets up off her fat ass to get her son. The boy’s mother takes her scared son back to the bench where she was sitting and literally ten minutes later the boy was back to pushing kids down. Only this time he did it in view of his mother and she picked him up and left. Lack of parental supervision is the biggest problem at our park. These mothers sit on those benches and stare off into space while their kids run wild. Could the bad behavior be a result of all the crap these kids ate last night? Hmmm…

1 comment:

Amy Donschikowski said...

No, Abby shouldn't have to give up a toy that she was playing with first. I used to tell Riley to "let it go" when another kid took a toy from her, hoping to raise a peaceful non-confrontational child, but then I felt that I was teaching her to be a push-over. So now she stands up for herself (sometimes too much). Congrats on not beating the be-jesus out of that brat at the playground.